[Ebrey]

Recently I realized that I am more sociable in groups, rather than one on one, and it explains some of the weird friendships I've had. I get along best with people who are pretty similar to me and thus, they're also more talkative in group settings. Either I don't hang out with them one on one, or we're not as fun when we're by ourselves. It's like we need a bunch of people around so we can talk to each other.

This strikes me as kind of funny, but hell, lots of people have stranger social issues. Is anyone else the same way?

Oh, and for some strange reason I have fantastic one-on-one online chats with my friends who are more talkative at parties.

[Baron Patsy]

I am the exact opposite!

[Gin]

I am never good at talking!

[Toto]

I got over being shit at socialising a while back.

[cthuljew]

I'm exactly the same way. Makes it really hard to impress girls with my wit, because when it's just me and her, I'm like a fucking rock. Get me in a group of three or more, and I'm the life of the fucking party. It sucks.
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[aderack]

[Ebrey]

I wonder which is more common. Probably Patsy/Eric-Jon.

[Baron Patsy]

To elaborate: I sometimes suffer from panic attacks when in group settings, so naturally I perform better socially when not in such a setting.

[aderack]

A single person is company. A group of people is a crowd.

That's about it, really. If I'm alone, I can concentrate; if I'm with someone, I can be attentive and communicate; if I'm around a bunch of people, I can... sit around and twiddle my thumbs.

There are exceptions, always, of course. Especially if everyone around me is hand-picked and relatively low-key.

I guess the thing is, the only way I'm used to interacting is with a certain level of intimacy. If I can't maintain a certain connection, I get lonelier than when I'm on my own. And I kind of just want to go away somewhere, so at least I have myself to keep me company.

[klj5j6li]

i think the trick to socializing in groups if you're more of a solo person is to just try to take control of the conversation. it's only hard to keep track of all the chatter going on in a group unless you're controlling the flow!

[SplashBeats]

ugh another one of these threads

i want the axe back so i don't have to see this shit in general

[Hot Stott Bot]

Guys I will repost my important story about hot dogs in general soon since I fear the world cannot do without it.

[internisus]

[aderack]

[Ebrey]

[internisus]

You know, it's not even that, really. I mean. Like, most conversations that people have, or not even conversations but long streams of talk I guess, well they're probably composed largely of something like this:

A: random thing that was on my mind
B: response to thing
A: response to response
etc. this is a conversation
B: tangent
A: response to tangent
etc. this is still a conversation
A: [...]
B: [...]
okay that conversation has ended, that's fine, be cool
B: random thing that was on my mind
A: response to thing
wtf is this another conversation it is like magic

What amazes me is that these people just say things that they are thinking about without worrying about, hey! maybe the person I am with does not give a shit about this random thing!

But if you follow that line of thought, then people have no way in which to relate to one-another at all!

On the other hand, that doubt, and that reluctance to presume to speak of whatever!

But that silence! We need to have a conversation!

and this is why I am only really comfortable one-on-one with a very, very good friend whom I have known for a long time, because with someone like that I don't worry about what I'm going to say. I can just be myself. I wish I could do as much with a stranger! But I can't get out of the above conundrum.

[cthuljew]

[haze]

well I think everyone is obviously comfortable with good friends, whether it's an individual or a group of them. still, everyone would lean towards a side, I'm pretty sure I prefer socializing with just one or two, so it doesn't feel like everyone's competing for everyone's attention with different passionate interests all at once.

but with acquaintances you know a little, yet not all that well, does anyone else feel just the opposite? I'd feel better in a group, there's no pressure for anyone "leading" the conversation, but throwing out topics and seeing what sticks. everyone can just go "hey you know ______?" (maybe at least one person knows!) and you learn more about everyone by noticing who's speaking up, and who's politely listening. one-on-one, the latter might end up feeling awkwardly silent.

[Lick Meth]

I've always been terrible at conversations, mainly because I don't (and can't) get out much any more. A friend told me that all people do any more is talk about what happened to other people, that we have nothing to talk about with ourselves (unless something amazing happened or happens), and that all other people do is get drunk and steal cones.

Goddamn things.

[bleak]

[Ebrey]

[Daphaknee]

i'm pretty fine in any situation, i love meeting new people so much

and i really really enjoy putting people in awkward situations and see how they pull through
that makes me sound like an asshole but i dont really do it in a mean way

im always just curious about people

ebrey i didnt make you feel awkward did i no i dont think so
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[sarsamis]

I'm best in groups of 3 or 4 usually.

[Ebrey]

daphny: Nope you didn't make me feel awkward. I'm most talkative in groups where I know half the people, and I'm drunk, but I felt pretty comfortable around you guys. Someday I will get drunk with you and become really offensive (ie awesome) and you can be as mean as you want.

[alice]

I hate group settings with a passion.

[bleak]

[The Drunken Samurai]

[CubaLibre]

I get along pretty easily with any number of people in any situation. Getting along with people is easy.
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[Toups]

depends on my mood, really.

if I'm tired I don't want to talk to anyone about anything. but sometimes I'm pretty bubbly.
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